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-YENÝ- STRESTEN NASIL KURTULURUZ?

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STRESTEN NASIL KURTULURUZ?

Eskilerin “acý” þimdilerde “stres” denilen insaný eleme sürükleyen duygunun kaynaðý/sebebi nedir?

Benim bu konuya en kýsa ve net cevabým:

Ýnsanýn kendini ve haddini aþarak, çizgisini bozarak alakasýz iþlerin içine girmesidir.

Allah dünyayý bir mizan/ölçü üzerine yaratmýþ olup; bilimler bu formüller üzerine çalýþýr.

Soðuya önlem almayan üþür hasta olur, her vücudunun %3 kadar sývý takviyesi yapmayan birçok hastalýða kapý açar, yüksekten düþen ölür v.b.

Bir de bunun psikolojik tarafý var.

Allah insanýn yürüyeceði kulvarý belirtmiþ, dýþýndaki alanlara müdahalesini engellemek için oralarý görmediðimiz ancak hissettiðimiz “lazer ýþýnlarý” ile belirlemiþtir.

Ýnsan kendi kulvarýný zorladýðý zaman muhatap olduðu “lazer ýþýnlarý” nýn etkisine stres/acý diyoruz.

Demek ki; acýnýn/stresin kaynaðý insanýn haddini aþmasýdýr.

Bu konuya Kur’an- Kerim’den iki misal verebiliriz:

Hz. Nuh (a.s.) 950 yýl yaþadý.

Eþi ve oðlu Kenan’ý belki 930 yýl Ýslam’a davet etti.

Kabul etmediler.

Özellikle oðlu konusunda çok ýsrar etti.

Tufan baþlayýp Kenan iman etmeyi býrakýn gemiye binmeyi reddedince Hz. Nuh (a.s.) kendi haddini aþtý ve Allah’tan Kenan’ýn ehli olduðu iddiasýyla özel imtiyaz istedi.

Allah Hz. Nuh (a.s.) kendi kulvarýný zorladýðýný bizlere þöyle anlattý:

“Nuh, Rabbine niyaz edip þöyle dedi: “Ey Rabbim! Þüphesiz oðlum da ailemdendir. Senin vadin elbette gerçektir. Sen de hükmedenlerin en iyi hükmedenisin. (Allah) buyurdu ki: “Ey Nuh! O (oðlun isyan ettiði için) senin ailenden deðildir. Çünkü o kötü iþler yaptý. Ýçyüzünü bilmediðin bir þeyi yapmamý benden isteme! Sana cahillerden olmamaný tavsiye ederim.” Hud, 11/45-46.

Benzer bir sýnýrlarý zorlama Hz. Muhammed (s.a.v.)’in hayatýnda da yaþandý.

Hz. Peygamber (s.a.v.) amcasý Ebu Talip’i çok seviyordu.

Onun iman etmesini çok istiyordu; ancak Ebu Talip iman etmek istemiyordu.

Hz. Muhammed (s.a.v.) Hz. Nuh (a.s.) gibi sevgisini, yakýnlýðý ve Ýslam’a desteðini önce sürerek sýnýrlarýný zorladý ve Allah’tan imtiyaz istedi.

Allah Teâla’da Hz. Muhammed (s.a.v.)’e, Hz. Nuh (a.s.)’a benzer þöyle uyarýda bulundu:
“Onlar ki, boþ ve anlamsýz sözler iþittikleri zaman ondan hemen yüz çevirip: “Bizim yaptýklarýmýzýn hesabýný biz vereceðiz, sizin yaptýklarýnýzýn hesabýný da siz vereceksiniz. Size selam olsun. Biz, (doðru ile yanlýþý ayýrt edemeyen) cahillerle arkadaþlýk etmeyiz” derler. Þüphesiz sen sevdiðin kimseyi doðru yola iletemezsin. Fakat Allah, dileyen kimseyi (iyi niyet ve gayretine göre) doðru yola eriþtirir. O, doðru yola eriþecek olanlarý daha iyi bilir.” Kasas, 28/55-56.

Saðlýðýmýz ve özellikle psikolojimiz için buyrun size altýn tavsiye:
“Tuuba limen arefe haddehu ve lem yetecevez tavrahu”

“Ne mutlu o kimseye ki;

Haddini bilir.

Tavrýnda tecavüz etmez.”

Haddini bil, kendi kulvarýna odaklan, lazer ýþýnlarýndan uzak dur, rahat et!

“Veysel eli ni’deceksin

Herkes ettiðini bulur

Önüne bak düþeceksin

Doðru gitsen utaþýrsýn” (Aþýk Veysel Þatýroðlu)

How to Get Rid of Stress?

What is the source/cause of the emotion formerly called "pain" and now "stress" that drives people to distress?

My shortest and clearest answer to this question is:

It is when people exceed their limits, disrupt their boundaries, and become involved in irrelevant activities.

God created the world on a scale; science works on these formulas.

Those who don't take precautions against cold become cold and sick; those who don't replenish even 3% of their body fluids open the door to numerous diseases; those who fall from heights die, etc.

There's also a psychological aspect to this.

God has determined the path a person should follow and, to prevent them from interfering with areas outside of their limits, He has designated those paths with "laser beams" that we cannot see but feel.

We call the effect of the "laser beams" we encounter when a person pushes their own path stress/pain.

Therefore, the source of pain/stress is a person exceeding their limits.

We can give two examples from the Quran on this subject:

The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) Noah (peace be upon him) lived for 950 years.

He invited his wife and son Canaan to Islam for perhaps 930 years.

They refused.

He was particularly insistent on his son.

When the flood began and Canaan refused to embark on the ark, let alone believe, Noah (peace be upon him) overstepped his bounds and asked God for special privilege, claiming to be Canaan's descendants.

God has told us that Noah (peace be upon him) pushed himself beyond his limits:

"Noah prayed to his Lord and said, 'O my Lord! Indeed, my son is of my family. Your promise is indeed true. And You are the best of judges.' (God) said, 'O Noah! He is not of your family, for he has done evil. And do not ask Me to do that of which you do not know. I advise you not to be among the ignorant.'" (Hud, 11:45-46)

A similar pushing of boundaries also occurred in the life of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). The Prophet (pbuh) loved his uncle Abu Talib very much.

He longed for him to believe, but Abu Talib refused to believe.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) pushed his limits, like the Prophet Noah (peace be upon him), by prioritizing his love, closeness, and support for Islam, and he asked God for a privilege.

God Almighty, like the Prophet Noah (peace be upon him), warned the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him):

“Those who, when they hear vain and meaningless talk, turn away from it and say, ‘We will account for what we did, and you will account for what you did. Peace be upon you. We do not associate with the ignorant.’ Indeed, you cannot guide whom you love. But Allah guides whomever He wills (according to his good intentions and efforts). He knows best who is rightly guided.” (Al-Qasas, 28:55-56).

Here's some golden advice for our health and especially our psychology:

 

"Tuuba limen afe haddehu ve lem yetecevez taavrahu"

"How happy is the one who;

Knows his place.

Doesn't transgress in his attitude."

Know your place, focus on your own path, stay away from laser beams, and relax!

""Veysel, you're going to ask someone else for help.

Everyone gets what they want.

Look ahead, you'll fall.

If you go straight, you'll reach it." (Aþýk Veysel Þatýroðlu